Beginner’s Guide to Experimenting with Anal
When it comes to experimenting with backdoor play, the idea can be both exhilarating and nerve-racking. After all, women’s pleasure isn’t often talked about, much less female anal play. Still, more women are interested in this area of their body than you may think. More than 35% of women have experimented with anal sex throughout their lives—and with damn good reason.
Anal masturbation and anal sex can provide incredible, toe-curling sensations that will open you up to a whole new way to explore and pleasure your body. Still, knowing how to prepare for anal masturbation and anal sex can be intimidating.
If you’re new to anal, there are some key things you need to know (and do) before trying anal sex for the first time.
What to know before trying anal
First off: your ass, both inside and out, is seriously sensitive and packed with nerve endings that can make anal stimulation feel fantastic. However, this also means you need to be careful with how you go about it. The last thing you want is to end up hurt from your first anal expedition, so make sure you’re well-prepared and totally enthusiastic about trying out a new kind of pleasure!
Like all things sexual, the best way to see what you like (and don’t like) is to try it on your own. Anal masturbation might be new to you, but it’s the most effective way for you to explore what feels great when it comes to anal stimulation. Self-exploration allows you to go as slow as you want without any added pressure from a partner.
How to prepare for anal masturbation
When starting your backdoor exploration, make sure you’re completed relaxed and that your finger or toy is well-lubed—water-based lube works best! When you’re ready, you can start exploring the entrance of your anus. There are hundreds of nerve endings on the outside of your anus, and a little gentle external massage can go a long way.
When it comes to penetration, take your time and try out a few different positions to work out what feels the most comfortable for anal penetration. Once you’re ready for more, you can gently slide your lubed finger or toy inside and see how it feels. Once you start to enjoy the new sensations, you can even try to add more fingers or pull out your favorite vibrator.
A dual action vibrator turned backward is the perfect toy for anal masturbation. It offers a more familiar vaginal stimulation to help you chill out while adding new intense sensations to your butt area. Just make sure to thoroughly wash any toys you use for anal play before you use them on your vagina again to prevent UTIs or vaginal infections.
How to Prepare for Anal Sex
Once you’re comfortable with what you like and don’t like about anal, it may be time to bring your partner into the fun. Anal sex is slightly different than anal masturbation, as you’ll have to spend more time communicating what each of you likes and finding a groove that works for both of you.
Whether your partner uses their fingers, a toy, a penis, or a strap-on, the most important thing is to go slow. Give your muscles time to get used to the new kind of penetration so you can enjoy the experience and avoid ripping or tearing. It can also be helpful to add in some delicious stimulation you know you already enjoy, like clitoral or vaginal, to keep the experience seriously sexy.
Keep communicating with your partner through the experience, and don’t be afraid to pull back if things get a little too intense—the skin of the anus and the internal membranes are delicate, and getting hurt back there is a sure way to dampen your enthusiasm for anal play in the future. Whatever you’re doing, use lots of lubricant to ensure things slip and slide as easily as they can, as your butt doesn’t naturally lubricate itself and needs a little help keeping things smooth.
With a partner, positions that put you in control can make all the difference. Woman-on-top is a great way to control the depth and intensity of the penetration, as well as giving your partner an amazing show. Positions like doggy can feel great once you’ve got a little more experience, but early in your anal journey, they can add more friction and make things uncomfortably tight.
Enjoy a triple-blended orgasm
As you start to explore anal, experiment with other kinds of stimulation to switch things up. Some people love the sensation of double penetration (of both the vagina and butt at the same time), while others swear by external clitoral stimulation to create a mind-blowing blended orgasm. If you’re feeling particularly adventurous, try vaginal, anal, and clitoral play all at once and see how your body responds!
Iridescence’s flexible design allows you to decide what you want and make the toy work for you. Use her to penetrate your vagina and stimulate your clitoris while your partner enters you from behind. Or, flip her around and enjoy the deep vaginal penetration while the second head plays with your anal opening and your fingers (or your partner’s mouth) work your clit.
With Iridescence, the options are endless. Treat yourself to Iridescence and explore a whole new kind of stimulation today.